The Steady Stream of Stressors

Hello readers and welcome to another one of my posts. Today I want to talk about the steady stream of stressors. Normally hearing the sound of water from a stream running would be relaxing, however there really is nothing relaxing about what is running from the stream of stressors. To me the steady stream of stressors is a phrase used to describe my observation from living as an adult in college and post-Masters that there always seems to be at least one stressor/obligation/responsibility to worry about completing/address/take care of. These stressors can include (but not be limited to) work responsibilites, errands, bills to pay, and for college/grad school, responsibilities related to school. It appears as if there is always something I need to handle. These stressors always seem to be coming at a rate similar to a stream, and just like a stream, the stressors do not stop. This is part of what I feel makes living in the adult world a challenge, the idea of needing to be on your toes in order to take care of everything and be successful. It can be stressing as the seemingly constant barrage of responsibilities and obligations can make it difficult to relax sometimes and unwind mentally. It can be even more difficult when I feel as if I have more obligations than time to complete them. College and Grad School in particular is a prime setting event for this kind of feeling.

I know internally speaking, I can feel frazzled by all the demands and obligations, especially if I appear to have a lot to complete in only a limited amount of time. The sudden appearance of an obligation that I have to get done in only a short amount of time (such as an assignment due tomorrow that I forgot about) can lead to a heigtened sense of anxiety. Living on my own having to manage all of these stressors only adds to this. Additionally, my tendency towards anxiety can evoke stress from even smaller and easier responsibilities that others would not get stressed over. Often times I find myself taking breaks or time to wind down, really out of neccessity to give myself a mental breather, and I think this is necessary for others to do as well in order to not stress themselves out too much. The stream of stressors perfectly illustrates the constant challenge of living in the adult world, a major challenge, that is made up of many individual challenges that pop up in succession

The 2 obstacles (part 2)

Hello readers and welcome again to another one of my blog posts. This is part 2 of my 2 part blog post discussing my 2 big obstacles that I as an adult on the spectrum face and must overcome to be successful. The first part I discussed social skills deficits and how that is an issue for me and others on the Spectrum. The second part, I will discuss anxiety and how that can affect me as a person on the spectrum.

While social skills deficits may not be relatable to all of us, certainly anxiety is. We all experience it, we all suffer through it. Anxiety can be a normal reaction to a perceived threat. However, for individuals like me on the Autism Spectrum, anxiety can be more than just a natural reaction to certain events, anxiety can occur at excessive rates and the perceived threat can appear trivial and unworthy of being anxious over. I certainly am one of those individuals as anxiety has always been a problematic issue for me. The issue for me with anxiety has always been a lack of certainty, the fear of the unknown. Not knowing the outcome has always made me anxious, though knowing it may not work out in my favor has always given me a sustained level of anxiety until I knew the outcome. This is what I call anticipatory anxiety, anticipating a threatening event or possible negative outcome, and it is driven by my need for certainty. Digging further my anticipatory anxiety and anxiety over lack of certainty stems first and foremost by the anxiety invoked by a lack of control. If I have no control over a situation, or if there is not a routine that I can depend on, then it can invoke a sense of worry which then feeds into the fear of the unknown.

The challenges dealing with my anxiety can bleed into work. I sometimes tend to worry about things while I am working as there may be another issue pending that I am stressed about. This can include having anticipatory anxiety of a future event/something that I am currently worried about and am eager to resolve to relieve stress. This can be an issue going back to lack of social skills in that my body language may convey that I am neither present in the moment nor warm and welcoming. The challenge becomes managing my anxiety in a more constructive way while dealing with the numerous stressors related to the adult world as so far as an adult, I have been bombarded with stressors and will continue to be bombarded with them 

The 2 obstacles (part 1)

Hello readers and welcome back to my blog. For this, I am going to publish a two-part blog (spanning two posts) about 2 obstacles that I have to overcome that magnify the difficulties of adult living as a person on the Autism Spectrum. The 2 obstacles that I have to overcome are social skills deficits and anxiety.

First, I want to talk about social skills deficit and how it can hinder independent living for adults on the Autism Spectrum. Social skills involves interpersonal communication and interactions with other people. Aspects of social skills can be both verbal and non-verbal. It is how the human race builds connections with each other, both professionally and non-professionally. For the neurotypical population, social skills comes easy. People can talk and make connections with each other rather easily. For those on the spectrum however, social skills can be difficult in both a verbal and non-verbal sense. Struggles can occur in the messages they send both through talking and from what they convey with their body  language. A lot of the times, I struggle with talking with others and maintaining conversations with others as well as integrating socialization into a work setting. Sometimes, I choose to focus on work while at work over socialization. Non-verbal communication/messaging is another social skills deficit, struggling with making sure I am not sending out unfriendly vibes/negative overtones when I am not speaking to others. My struggles with this are not unique in among the population as these kind of issues are the reason for so many social skills classes targeted at kids on the Spectrum so they can learn these young.

Social skills deficits can cause lots of work related issues. Interpersonal communication is likely to be a part of any job, whether it is with a consumer, a colleague, or a supervisor. A lack of these social skills communications can lead to issues such as saying something inappropriate or making the consumer uncomfortable with you. For example, as someone who works with clients, lack of social skills can make a client not want to continue with the services I am providing, and it can cause me to lose hours and reflect poorly on both me individually and on the company in general. It can also hurt in obtaining a job as social skills deficits being put on display can hurt chances in a job interview as well. So, one of my great obstacles is social skills deficit and overcoming them so I can help maintain jobs and make myself more marketable to those I encounter in the work setting.

An Introduction

Hello, and welcome to my new blog, Adult World Autism. Here in my new blog, I would like to share a personal account of what it is like to be a person on the Autism Spectrum living independently in the adult world. Navigating the Adult World can be difficult, add the component of Autism, and it can be even more difficult if you are a person on the Autism Spectrum. What I will talk about is issues in the Adult World relating to a person like myself. These can include issues that may not be issues to neurotypical adults, but for someone on the Autism Spectrum, it can be a big issue. Additionally, there can be issues that can be issues for neurotypicals as well, but issues that can get exacerbated with Autism. Any way my hope is that for those is to provide inspiration for individuals and family members on the Autism Spectrum and to give a point of view of what the Adult World is like to those without Autism. I hope that sharing this can help others. Anyway if you read this far, thank you for reading and I hope you will read more of my content.